The No Sugar Dilemma

Random Thought: Remember if your wife likes sugar in her coffee.

There is a principle I like to call The No Sugar Dilemma.

Imagine you and your wife have a morning routine. You both grab a cup of coffee and spend a little time together before leaving for work. Every morning like clockwork. And every morning you guys have your coffees the same way, you have it black and she has it with two creams and a sugar. Everyday the same routine. Everyday the same cups of coffee. 2 years pass. Then 5. Then 10. And then one day your wife asks you to fix her coffee. You pour her a cup, set it on the table and start to add her customary cream and sugar. “No thanks”. You’re stunned. “When did you start taking your coffee black”? With a confused expression she says” I’ve been taking it black for the last 7 years”.

This may not seem like a big deal. But because it’s so small, is the reason it’s so big. Somehow in the midst of living life, you have missed your beloved changing. What else have you missed? How many couples have grown apart because over the years small changes have added up to big differences? As couples navigate the ups and downs of life (careers, school, businesses, children, etc.) they can forget to nurture their relationship. To date each other. To rediscover each other. To check in on each other as you both grow and change through the stages of life. So, gentleman, check in on your bride. Ask her how she’s doing, how she’s been. And remember ……..if she likes sugar in her coffee.